A couple of months ago, a dear friend asked me if I had ever had a boudoir session done of myself.
I replied, "No! I'm utterly out of shape and 30 pounds overweight!"
She answered, "Hmm...sounds like you need to walk your talk."
So I did. I signed up with the least expensive boudoir photography option I could find (which is still astronomically more expensive then what I charge...see below!) and then began my preparation.
Lingerie shopping at the East Wenatchee mall was challenging but entertaining. I walked up to the woman in the underwear department at Macy's and said, "I haven't had any lingerie since before two kids and I'm going to need some help." She eagerly brought me all whole pile of items and I did my part by keeping a sense of humor while I tried on item after item, my body foreign to me, lumpy in spots I'd never really seen before, and curvy and beautiful in spots I hadn't paid enough attention to.
I found a pair of 4 inch heels at Ross for $6.99 that were a size too big but it's not like I was going to walk in them! I was thrilled.
I ordered thigh high stockings and fake eyelashes online. I planned out when to have my hair and make up done, childcare for both kids, opted to not go tanning or start running for the two weeks ahead of my appointment.
I did my best not to freak out.
Then the day came and I drove with said friend to Seattle and tried my best not to drink too much champagne before my session. My hair and make up was perfect. The outfits were ridiculous and fun as I put them on and the photographer was friendly and kind and professional.
I laughed a lot. I couldn't imagine some of the poses were going to be flattering. I changed outfits and with great instruction moved into pose after pose and then it was over.
Before I had ever even seen how beautiful the images turned out, I felt changed by this experience. I felt taller, stronger, more powerful and certainly more sexy. I felt more feminine, more inside my body again, more lighthearted about my body image even.
I feel empowered.
After doing this session, I began to exercise again. It propelled me forward and the momentum continues. My husband and I ran together this morning in warm morning sunshine, along the river path, something that has never happened before but will happen again and again and again...
It is the truth that in my boudoir session I was more out of shape than I have ever been in my life and 30 pounds overweight. It is the truth that I am blown away by how beautiful my images turned out. It is the truth that I now know on a deeper level that I can photograph ANY woman at ANY stage or weight or point in her life and capture beauty.
We are all beautiful in all kinds of ways and boudoir is one simple way to remind yourself of that.
*Note about boudoir pricing:
Boudoir photography is typically really expensive. The least expensive you can get is $500 and you only get ONE image. If you want a session and small book it's at least $1500. I personally do not feel comfortable with charging more than what I would pay for something so for now Wiley Photography Boudoir is apparently going to be not only top notch but also affordable! I say, take advantage of this! xo